Forgiveness is for YOU. The dictionary leaves us woefully underprepared for life when it defines forgiveness as the act or process of forgiving. What does that even mean? It means you can't give it to someone else. You have to go get it for your Self through a specific process of action. Do you have an action plan for when you are harmed and can't get an apology? I do. I journal, I make art, I exercise, I meditate, I phone a friend, I refer to a list of things that are known to make me happy and I follow it religiously. I say the Ho'oponopono prayer: I love you, Please forgive me, Thank you, I'm Sorry. I say these words to ME because I am intentionally healing ME. If you want to practice Self-Love, you have to practice Self-Forgiveness. This means examining the words and actions YOU take against Self, taking responsibility for them, and adjusting whenever necessary. This does not mean you have to forgive people who harm you, it means you have to forgive your Self whenever you are harmed through a specific process of action that works for you.